For as long as I can recall, I found myself subjected to constant comparisons with others. Initially, it was my older sister, and later, my cousin. My achievements and accolades were incessantly measured against theirs, creating an atmosphere I despised.
My mother, in particular, was notorious for this habit, although my grandmother and siblings occasionally indulged in it as well. Yet, no one surpassed my mother in making it a regular occurrence. Consequently, I found myself engaging in the same behavior, turning the act of comparing and judging into a personal sport.
I compared to my sister for not being as resourceful or financially savvy. I was compared to my cousin for not being as smart or having had achieved her academic success. I was compared to my aunt because of our similar physique and mannerisms.
Despite making friends in college, I struggled to break free from the pattern of keeping tabs on them and attempting to surpass their accomplishments from a distance. The constant need to compare myself to others in order to prevent them from having an advantage or to maintain my status as superior began to take a toll on me.
The turning point came when I formed a friendship with an older woman through work. She taught me that not everyone I encountered needed to be a rival or a benchmark for comparison. She became an ally, although our friendship eventually faced challenges.
Recognizing the detrimental impact of this mindset, I embarked on a journey toward self-healing. It became clear that true growth and fulfillment come not from outshining others but from finding my own path and appreciating my unique journey.
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